Somewhere along the path there is likely going to come a point when you will have some sort of marriage troubles or another, no matter how sturdy your marriage is in the beginning. This is typical in most marriages.  It’s when those “normal” marital troubles turn into “abnormal” marital challenges, that is when a marriage can turn onto the road of destruction. 

Statistically speaking, over 50% of all beginning marriages end in divorce and that percentage rises with second and third time marriages.  So the question is, are people doing all they can to find the right kind of marriage help?  In my opinion I think the answer is “no”.  marriage has become too conveniently disposable and when people begin having marriage problems they just don’t feel it’s worth the time or effort to try to resolve an unhappy marriage.

If you, in fact, desire to save your marriage then will have to take the suitable steps in doing that.  Your marriage is not going to repair itself; you have to take control and fix it yourself.  As the saying goes, “you made your bed now lie in it” and that’s the bottom line when it comes to saving your marriage.

The first thing you need to figure out is what the source of the challenge is.  Relationship problems come in many levels; it’s only when you determine the source of the problem can you start digging through the layers to figure out the rest of the troubles.  This can be an agonizing and eye-opening experience and to be expected you will both have to take an extended look in the mirror and accept the fact that fault falls on you both.  It takes two people to make a marriage and it also takes two people to destroy it.  If you feel it’s worth your effort and time to fix your marriage, and want more detailed information, you can get the ball rolling with the magic of making up right here.

Letting marriage troubles to hang on indefinitely will ultimately lead to the end of the marriage so it is vital, if you truly hope to save your marriage, to recognize your relationship challenges and start to work through them together.  The longer you live in an gloomy marriage the less likely it is you will want to save it.  You begin looking at the grass on the other side of the fence, which at that time in your life, looks much more tempting than the dead grass you keep trying to chew on.

Once you have figured out the root cause of the problem you have to dig up that root, burn it, and then plant new seeds in its place.  You see, once the root is dead, the rest will follow, but only as long as the root is dead.  The challenge with most marriages when they are looking for marriage help, is that they discover the root of the problem and attempt to dig it up and kill it, but they never fully succeed which leaves the root there to spark new growth.  This is not a time to play the blame game; you both are to blame and you both have to decide what is most important.  If one person is willing but the other is not, your labors are in vain; it has to be a mutual endeavor.

I’ve never agreed that marriage is a 50/50 thing; marriage is a 100/100 thing.  If both people aren’t giving their total all to the marriage, how can a marriage possibly continue?  It’s like baking a cake; if you don’t use 100% of the ingredients the recipe calls for, the cake is not going to turn out. 

An unhappy marriage doesn’t have to always be unhappy; you have power of this issue and you have the control to fix it.  The best approach is going straight to the source of the problem and eliminating that source.  This takes bravery and dedication but if you are serious about saving your marriage you’ll swallow your pride and do what it takes to make the marriage fit and strong once again.  The most important thing to always bear in mind is you must not relive the past.  Once you resolve it, it’s done.  If you can’t get past the issue then the concern is more rooted than you thought.  You have to dig until it’s completely dead and eliminated from your life.

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