Open Question: Christian Pastors put up too many roadblocks?
Ok, so I kind of want to be a psychologist, to help people heal. I’m approaching my senior year of high school, and I’d like to know if I should attend this college I’ve been looking at. They offer:-Master of Arts in Professional Counseling -Master of Arts in marriage and Family Therapy and-Master of Science in Christian Psychological StudiesDo any of you know if any of this would help me in my quest? I mean, what kind of jobs (generally) are done by people with these degrees? Does anyone know? Thanks!KHOpen Question: I’ll admit. I don’t know about the future! (psychology degree help, plz)?
EX-Factor. I can’t seem to get over my ex everytime I think that we’re done he makes his way back into my heart. Usually I have no problem moving on but I come to find out that I am more attached to him than I thought. I don’t know what I should do. We have communication problems and are too quick to walk away from one another, weird huh for two people that can’t seem to live without each other? He agreed on couple counseling and even talks about marriage but if nothing changes we’ll be right back were we are now.Voting Question: Nothing is worth having if it doesn’t take a fight? But why keep fighting 4 sumthing that should be simple?
He told me in January that he had cheated on my with a girl I had had suspicions about. This is the deal, he says he cheated on me twice with her (both times in 2005), supposedly she got pg and had abortions twice. We have 3 kids. I wanted to try to work this out simply for the sake of the kids, plus people DO get past infidelity…. I just don’t know if I am one of them. I have plenty of anger, resentment, etc. for him doing this to me, but even with counseling can this even be saved? He lied to me once about cutting off contact with her, but then he kept messaging her on myspace behind my back asking when she was off, etc. BEFORE he had told me he cheated on me with her. We’ve done marriage counseling before I ever even found out that he cheated on me for lesser offenses and here we are again. And talking about it? Impossible, he says he did it because he was drunk and “we were fighting” THAT’S NOT A REASON, it’s an excuse! I can forgive but never forget. So what do I do?Okay wait, he HAS cut off contact with her now, just for clarity. We haven’t been to counseling yet for this, we are going soon because I can’t deal with the emotional toll it ihas takenThe first time we did counseling was in 2005 (the same year he ended up cheating on me, which is effed up, but I didn’t know about it until this year) for other problems. And don’t send nasty answers, it’s complicated enough without being judged. We’ve been together for 8 years and there ARE kids involved so for the haters, use your better judgement and give advice or don’t say anything at all!Resolved Question: He cheated, confessed almost 4 years after the fact, now what?
I have dated a woman for a 1.5 yrs. I moved into her house about 7 months in and we have been together everyday. We have planned adn talked marriage and kids and were anxiousl planning it. She has always had a bit of an anger problem and has a tough time knowing when its time to stop drinking. 2 weeks ago we got into an arguement and she went out drinking with friends adn turned off her phone. When she returned that night I tried to apologie for a previous fight and i wouldnt drop it. Long story short a water glass fell on the ground and she used it to threaten me and to leave her alone. The threats were exreme and I had to call the cops since i got cut and she had lost it. I dropped the chages the next day and offered to pay for counseling for her…but once the cahrges were dropped she sadi she didnt love me anymore and I moved out. She didnt want me to contact her and watned me to move on…..but i feel that she is the one and i care for her very much. I plan on sending her a longletter to express my feelings and to take responsibilty. i also want to offer to pay for any cousneling costs and the bail. She is a good woman and the greatest woman I know…she has made me a much better man. It was an arguemetn taht got way out of control but I cant get her out of my mind. At first I was angry with her and since i feel sorry andstill have my love although she doesnt. I ahve givn her two weeks since I moved out and want to send a letter with her favorite flowers to ask her to meet with me for coffee or even talk over the phone. She was traumatized by going to jail and i want to let her know that my family and i still love her and want her back. It seems odd being a victim…but I have given her space and really want to make astrong push to get her back. Our lives were planned out and she has had anger problems in the past…..but she is the greatest thing in my life. Feel free to email me at joetrapasso3@yahoo.com or im at j_trap3 as I plan to give her the note 4/20.I apprecaite all of the responses. One troubling part is that she has yet to apologize and has trid to hide from what took place. She is a very stubborn person and often times it takes talking to get her to open and her childhood was very rough..she is basically a sekf made successful woman. we wants me to move on but I feel in both my heart and mind that its worth one last chance to reach out to her next week. I have no problem finding other women but the bond taht we shared was tight and powerful. Her anger has always been an issue but she has improved over the relationship a ton!! She is an emotional person and i was the first roommate of any kind. I want to extend my hand out next week once more to meet with her and talk. From an email she sent on Sun she blames me…but I chalk much of it up to her trauma. I hope maybe my actions will show her how serious I am for her and that I want to help her recover from this emotionally and financially. Its small shot I have but I love herOpen Question: I was the victim but I love them and know I can help her get past what happened?
