Voting Question: Swollen fingers, Swollen joints, Body aches, headaches daily…someone people help!!?
My husband’s 1st sexual experience was with a prostitute at age 20. He also went to them in his previous marriage, but claims that it was not always for services sometimes just to talk. He started asking me to dress up in tight short dresses, heels, messy hair and “bad makeup”. When I told him that he wanted me to dress like a whore he told me that he only wanted me to be “his” whore. He was also sexually aggressive and dominating and sex was not intimate but rather stressful. My husband has a sexual addiction which I only recently found out about. I have stayed with him since he is now going to therapy and on medication. Our sex life has improved greatly but at times he still wants me to dress up – or actually down – for him. Once I dressed up without him asking, took control of the situation and made him pay me. It didn’t feel good. I know that it is perfectly normal for couples to roleplay but I do not know if this aspect is normal or if it is part of his addiction problemResolved Question: My husband likes me to dress like a prostitute during sex? Is this normal?
Last month I asked my husband for a divorce. He was spending all our week-ends on overnight fishing trips, making frivolous spending decisions without consulting me, and walking around with irritable mood swings. After 1 year of trying, reading books, therapy, etc. I realized that it takes 2 people to be in a marriage. I gave him the ultimatum before and he would straighten out for a while, but then want to do whatever he wanted to go again with no regard for me. When I confronted him about his mood swings the last time, he shrugged his shoulders and said “what mood swings.” He is suppossed to take medication, but does so when he wants. I am exhausted in this relationship, and wanted out. He agreed with no fight, yet now that the papers are here for him to sign he is trying to make me feel guilty that it is my fault. What makes a 47 year old man think that he can have his cake and eat it too? Can someone help me understand this behavior?Resolved Question: My husbands response to my asking for a Divorce?
Do Americans believe that it is not healthy to be, at least for a while, sad, hurt, angry or confused when going through a divorce? Everything is not like TV, people.Talk to any therapist worth his salt and he will tell you that it is normal to feel these things and unless you are on Valium or some other happy pill, it is OK. Also, as a final note, has anyone come up with a phrase other than “Get over it.” That is overused and meaningless. Wlak a mile in my shoes, etc, etc. ( fill in your favorite)sheloves_dablues needs therapy if asking a question is “lashing out”marriage problem, AMERICANS SAY “GET THERAPY?”?” title=”Resolved Question: Why in any marriage problem, AMERICANS SAY “GET THERAPY?”?” >Resolved Question: Why in any marriage problem, AMERICANS SAY “GET THERAPY?”?
